I am always extremely polite and actually stick around for the ENTIRE DATE, even if I am not into my date for whatever reason.
The only thing that would make me end a date after 15-20 mins would be if the guy becomes verbally or physically abusive. Anything else I believe you gotta have more compassion/decency than to ditch them so fast.
If the person is just shy/boring, I can put up with that for longer than 20 mins. I mean come on, you can’t know if someone "f-ing sucks" within 15 mins. They may be great people who need some time to warm up or get used to you. (Otherwise every shy person should kill themselves now I guess LOL)
As far as looks go, I wouldn’t end a date after 15 mins due to looks either, that’s just rude and tacky. Even if I’m not gonna date the person I can always use more friends. And if I thought the person was nice enough to meet, I’m not gonna leave early because they’re not Brad Pitt or Marilyn Monroe, give me a break.
I actually met a guy once who ended up being significantly older than his picture and I stuck through the date! Because he really wasn’t an a-hole, I actually felt sorry for him posting an older pic just to be able to talk to people. My friends think I’m too nice, maybe so, but some people too RUDE!
Let’s put it this way, if you had planned to spend the day with a person, don’t leave after 15 mins. If you have so little respect for this person, you shouldn’t have agreed to meet them in the first place. That’s my opinion.
And if it was YOU bugging them to meet … but then they aren’t being cool enough for you or whatever, so you leave … then that just takes the goddamn cake!!
I’m curious though, is there any etiquette rule for this?
Any manners book that deals with this?
I’m with you; unless the person is verbally or physically abusive, I would stay the entire date. I would keep it shorter than originally anticipated, like if the person asked if I would like to go get a drink after the movie, I would politely decline.
I would not want to hurt anyone’s feelings and would not like it if someone walked out on me.
My mother always told me: You never know if your dud date’s relative/friend/etc is your soulmate, so it’s better not to burn bridges. He might fix you up with your future spouse someday.
My dad was her bad date’s roommate.